I have a confession to make.
It’s nothing juicy, scandalous or diabolical.
I debated long and hard about writing this post, wondering, “What will our readers think? What if they find this offensive?”
What if they are turned off, when they find out (eeeeeeeeek!) ……I love to knit.
Yeah, I know…knitting doesn’t have anything to do with Love. Besides, lots of people think knitting has to be the most boring thing a person could ever do. (I don’t think they know much about knitting.)
Even on really busy days, there’s usually a small window of opportunity for a little knitting. It’s something that fills my cup, in some strange way. I don’t just do knitting, it’s part of my psyche…I am a knitter. Subtle but real difference.
When I’m not knitting, I think about it and anticipate the feel of fine wool, alpaca or cotton in my hands. I love the color spectrum and texture of yarns, the unlimited combination of stitches that make up a never-ending array of patterns, and the euphoria that goes with a creative challenge. (Yes, I’m nuts.)
The only thing I don’t like about knitting is when I make a big mistake and have to “rip out” a bunch of stitches in order to go back and make it right. If I don’t take the time to fix it, there will be a constant nagging that drives me nuts until I give in and return to the scene of the crime.
In an especially intricate pattern, it may take a lot of time to undo what I’ve done and fix it, but it will be worth the time and effort eventually.
Before I understood the way knitting works and how knitted stitches are ‘woven’ together, it was nearly impossible to fix a BIG mistake. It could mean giving up on a project (perish the thought!). After I learned and understood the mechanics of knitting, I was no longer intimidated by my mistakes, and could handle them in a more creative fashion.
I also learned that knitting without mistakes is unrealistic, no matter how hard I try.
What if we look at Love in the same way?
Learning about Love, and the science of it, helps us become more responsible for our behavior and actions. We start creating more attractive patterns in our relationships because we have a new understanding and freedom to apply Love’s beautiful spectrum of the 10 Vectors* to our daily lives.
The textures, combinations and individuality of people and circumstances we encounter now become opportunities to express creativity in Love’s domain. We wake up each day with anticipation and joy in our new purpose; to Love others.
Just like knitting, the fabric of life has some unwanted holes, big mistakes, and spots that are really messed up sometimes. Unlike yarn, life doesn’t let us go back in time to undo mistakes and fix them. But Love does have a remedy.
The Technology of Love, explains that Forgiveness is one of the more difficult and misunderstood of Love’s elements (found within the Pillar of Knowledge, Love’s Director). It’s a thinking method, a knowledge process, an internal occurrence, rather than an action.
Forgiveness is strictly a matter within the thought purview of the offended individual, and is first restorative of the injured individual; secondarily restorative of the offender. It does not absolve the offended individual or the offender from the responsibilities of justice—or from the protecting function thereof.
…Nevertheless, the Forgiveness of Love generally cannot extract anything from the offender; indeed it must give Love to the offender if possible. It is the generation of Love that heals quickest and cleanest. The last defense is to mount an offensive of Love, especially to those we have loved deeply and hope to do so again. In many cases, this involves almost a constant tone of Forgiveness. Thus Jesus’ example of extending Forgiveness “seventy times seven” by one brother to another. (The Technology of Love, C.E. Hansen, p. 101).
Love does allow for and encourage us to ‘go back’ and apply forgiveness to areas in our lives, or relationships that are still bothering us (causing us or others pain). We can at least mend some mistakes, and even hope for restoration in some cases. The journey has to begin in our own thinking. And with that comes the ability to try and avoid the same mistakes in the future, and to be more creative and less intimidated in our application of forgiveness.
So, whether it’s knitting… or Love, the goal is the same: We want to bring something stunningly beautiful, passionately pleasing, warm and wonderful to the fabric of life.
It’s in your hands.
Don’t just do Love…Be Love.
*The 10 Vectors (from The Technology of Love) are Care’s 10 Action Elements, fully explained in TOL, chapter 10, The Mathematics of Love. A special thanks to our reader, Kent J. for his input regarding the ‘spectrum’ of the 10 Vectors.
(For in-depth information on Forgiveness, see TOL, chapter 4, and consult the index for much more!)