He was breathing down my neck.
My rear-view mirror was full of the dusty dark SUV behind me and I was getting nervous. I needed to make a turn at the next intersection on the quiet stretch of highway, but I didn’t need to get rear-ended in the process.
My turn signal on, foot off the accelerator, I tapped my breaks hoping he’d back off. As I began slowing down to make the turn, the scrawny kid behind the wheel in his big black machine revved up his engine and blew past me on the right.
Earlier in the week, driving on the interstate highway, I witnessed a middle aged man, in his comfy Cadillac talking on his cell phone while passing an 18 wheeler.
He didn’t seem to notice that he nearly forced a mid-sized van full of people, off the road. He went his way, chatting on the phone, oblivious to the lives he’d just endangered.
On a less dangerous note, recently at the grocery store, I kept hearing someone chattering like crazy, from one end of the store to the next. Finally I saw her with her loaded grocery cart and two bleary eyed children. She was on her cell phone reaching up with her free hand to grab a can of asparagus off the shelf.
She was still talking on her cell phone when she got in line behind me at the checkout stand; still talking on her phone as I left the store. This gal must have thought she was alone.
What does all this have to do with Love? EVERYTHING!
No matter where you are, if there are people, or sentient beings of any kind around, despite what’s going on in your own world…YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Love is in the details, down to the tiniest little bits. Every encounter with others is a precious opportunity to live Love. Everybody who crosses your path in everyday life is there for a purpose. Make it count!
It’s really, really important to get this part right, because this is the nitty-gritty place where Love happens! This is “where the tire meets the road.”
Every day, the “Intent to Please” needs to be with us wherever we go, along with the Knowledge that every person we encounter is a unique and wonderful individual, in need of respect and some intensity of Love’s action elements.
Driving it Home
Once upon a time, before we were constantly distracted and interrupted by all of today’s techno-gadgets, we learned the importance of being ‘courteous drivers.’ In those days, we knew and understood the importance of courteous telephone manners.
We didn’t realize it at the time, but Courtesy isn’t just “manners;” it’s part of Love!
Courtesy is the minimal intensity of Care. That means it doesn’t require all that much energy, but just enough to keep the action of Love in gear; it’s still very powerful!
Here’s the catch; in order to be courteous, we have to be aware and Attentive to the fact that there are others around us.
If we aren’t at least being courteous, then we’ve violated Love and fallen into the chasm of Discourtesy and Rudeness. Nobody likes to be on the receiving end of rude treatment. It’s a violation of Love! (Read more about the Intent to Please and see the chart of Care’s Intensities here.)
Forget our world famous, prestigious universities or the more than 335,000 religious congregations in America with more than 56 million people. Once we get in our cars…it looks like we are barbarians!
We all make mistakes and fall short. Each person is a “work in progress.” Every single one of us.
What we want to do is learn how to reduce those times when we fail; learn how to become more loving…even in our cars or on our cell phones. This is about the Golden Rule, the Great Commandment…our higher purpose.
The new Science behind The Technology of Love, helps us understand Love in ways we’ve never imagined. It equips us with the knowledge and skills to really start making a difference in the way we relate to people in the ordinary happenings of life at every level.
Start right now, and ask yourself this question: Have I become blind to seeing the real, living, individual people surrounding me? If so, what am I going to do about it?
You can’t give OR receive Love if you’re acting like you’re alone.
I’m in your corner. Let me know how you’re doing.
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The 30 Day Challenge is meant to get you thinking about the little details and the vast number of opportunities to learn to Love your neighbor as yourself. Start small, start simple…and watch it grow. Have you taken a serious look at it yet? Send us your stories and experiences; we’re all in this together!